Step six: Forgiveness.
How have they moved on when I'm still crying?
Okay. It's been exactly three weeks and two days since the break up. You have been counting down the days to see how long it takes them to realize they miss you, and they have made a horrible mistake. You were each others everything there is no way they will be able to stay away.
...Text message...
You find out they have a new girlfriend/boyfriend. Automatic reaction? Scream. Controlled reaction? Stand there silent with a giant pit in your stomach.
It is merely a rebound. Try to shake it off.
A rebound is usually a relationship someone gets into immediately or very closely after a big, important relationship. It's for your partner to cope, in a different and more hurtful way than you are. And maybe even subconsciously, meaning they don't realize their new fling is a rebound. No matter if you are the one breaking up or the one being broken up with, you both are experiencing a loss and a change in life.
Sometimes this person is attempting to have the comfort of another persons affection after the break up, to ease any pain that may be there. And also to distract them. By having a new boyfriend or girlfriend that quickly usually says a lot about a person. It can show they are constantly needing approval and affection from others. It can also mean they are very insecure and constantly need someone to rely on. They are pushing the pain and heartbreak of the breakup aside and distracting themselves with a new person. Commonly after a breakup people feel useless and not wanted.
What does a rebound do exactly?
Helps your ex feel wanted, loved, appreciated, distracted, approved, ego boost. All that crap.
But just because they feel that for now, DOES NOT mean it will last.
**However, sometimes it doesn't mean they will come back to you either. DO NOT WAIT for your ex to realize you were a better boyfriend/girlfriend than their new partner. Waiting is never good, it keeps you hopeful and can prepare you for further disappointment. Always remember if you let go and move on, (knowing you still love your ex, but continuing to live happily) and your ex comes back to you, it does not mean you can't get back with them. It just means you didn't waste your time waiting around for them to decide.**
Rebounds are usually viewed more casually by your ex, even though you might hear them say "I love you" and all that jazz does not mean it was what you had. It could mean, they are trying to push the memories of you two together far out of their head. So they will feel no pain. Rebounds are truly selfish acts.
I am a strong believer in karma. If you ignore a problem, or something that is very capable of hurting you it is only going to work for so long.
Eventually the rebound will stop working, and they will begin to realize they are not happy. They may not realize WHY they are not happy. Do not expect them to come running back into your arms. But don't expect them not to either.
This relationship you heard about early into the breakup stages will typically not last long. But try not to over analyze it and block them on facebook as soon as you can, so you can stay sane and as happy as possible.
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...Text message...
You find out they have a new girlfriend/boyfriend. Automatic reaction? Scream. Controlled reaction? Stand there silent with a giant pit in your stomach.
It is merely a rebound. Try to shake it off.
A rebound is usually a relationship someone gets into immediately or very closely after a big, important relationship. It's for your partner to cope, in a different and more hurtful way than you are. And maybe even subconsciously, meaning they don't realize their new fling is a rebound. No matter if you are the one breaking up or the one being broken up with, you both are experiencing a loss and a change in life.
Sometimes this person is attempting to have the comfort of another persons affection after the break up, to ease any pain that may be there. And also to distract them. By having a new boyfriend or girlfriend that quickly usually says a lot about a person. It can show they are constantly needing approval and affection from others. It can also mean they are very insecure and constantly need someone to rely on. They are pushing the pain and heartbreak of the breakup aside and distracting themselves with a new person. Commonly after a breakup people feel useless and not wanted.
What does a rebound do exactly?
Helps your ex feel wanted, loved, appreciated, distracted, approved, ego boost. All that crap.
But just because they feel that for now, DOES NOT mean it will last.
**However, sometimes it doesn't mean they will come back to you either. DO NOT WAIT for your ex to realize you were a better boyfriend/girlfriend than their new partner. Waiting is never good, it keeps you hopeful and can prepare you for further disappointment. Always remember if you let go and move on, (knowing you still love your ex, but continuing to live happily) and your ex comes back to you, it does not mean you can't get back with them. It just means you didn't waste your time waiting around for them to decide.**
Rebounds are usually viewed more casually by your ex, even though you might hear them say "I love you" and all that jazz does not mean it was what you had. It could mean, they are trying to push the memories of you two together far out of their head. So they will feel no pain. Rebounds are truly selfish acts.
I am a strong believer in karma. If you ignore a problem, or something that is very capable of hurting you it is only going to work for so long.
Eventually the rebound will stop working, and they will begin to realize they are not happy. They may not realize WHY they are not happy. Do not expect them to come running back into your arms. But don't expect them not to either.
This relationship you heard about early into the breakup stages will typically not last long. But try not to over analyze it and block them on facebook as soon as you can, so you can stay sane and as happy as possible.
Want to ask anything?
Share a story?
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Email me!
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