Recover from Heartache.
It's like screaming, and no one can hear. You almost feel ashamed that someone can be that important, and without them, you feel like nothing. No one will ever understand how much it hurts. You feel hopeless, like nothing can save you. And when it's over and it's gone, you almost wish you could have all that bad stuff back, so you could have the good.
Step one: Understand you are not alone.
After suffering through a messy breakup and understanding how painful this sort of thing can be, I decided I want to help you help yourself heal. I am here to listen, give advice, talk, vent to...whatever. Just email me- [email protected]
Being a member of this silent group throughout America, I understand with empathy and passion the pain of heartbreak. He/she left you by choice and now you’re looking in the mirror wondering "what’s wrong with me?"
People tell you to get over it and move on with your life. However the fear, anxiety and depression may be holding you back, paralyzing you from feeling capable to do anything but feel the severe pain.
I can’t say that I got over my first love quickly, because I did not. It took me 9 months to finally realize who I am without him, and how to know I am okay or even better off without worrying about my ex. There is no time limit on getting over someone. Some people are capable of getting over their ex in weeks, some months and for a few others, years.
First off, the fear of the word ‘ex’ may be paralyzing you, causing you to have the throw-up feeling in your stomach. Things are changing, and that is the last thing you want to think about. Especially when now, you are a human version of a record player constantly replaying the album of your love affair. However, everything will be okay. Calm Down. Take a breath. Put his/her picture down and relax.
I know. It hurts. The pain in your chest always there, and you are maybe having trouble sleeping or the inability to control when you cry. It feels like nothing will ever be okay again and all you want is that one person. Who you feel like now, you cannot have.
Heartbreak hurts. You are on an emotional roller coaster ride. One day life is good, the next you are feeling just as bad as day one...
This is normal and you are NOT alone.
Millions of people in the world are feeling the same pain you are. The same ache in their stomach and the feeling, confusion, worry, sadness, anger and so on.
When I had my first heartbreak I began looking online for advice. I searched for websites with information, one on one chat advice, psychics, horoscopes, in desperate need to find someone who felt the way I did.
"Does anybody else in here, feel the way I do?"
-Pink Floyd, Vera
After talking to people and reading every semi-decent website, I came to the conclusion that I didn’t believe or I didn’t WANT to believe what was happening. The idea that the boy I was so desperatly in love with had moved on, and left me to fend for myself. Someone saying, ‘you both have changed and now it’s time to move on.’ was far too much for me. I could not handle it and I was certain that no other boy or girl in the universe felt this pain. To me, I was just the unlucky one, chosen in all of history to be upset and depressed over an ex boyfriend. Well here is the honest to goodness truth...I wasn’t, and neither are you. No matter how much it feels like it, I guarantee you pass at least six people throughout the day with that one special person on their mind, wishing similar things you did. Longing for that someone to come back into their lives, as if that would make everything perfect again.
Although, I did not take this from a website. The websites gave me answers, but never comfort or understanding. We all know the internet is incapable of giving hugs or talking to you about your feelings. But, humans create the internet and that is why I created this site, so if you are feeling more or less of what I felt, you can know there are survivors. You can read the truth from a girl who got over her ex less than two months ago and has never been so happy. You can understand the pain is normal, and even though it seems crazy, it will go away. You will be alright.
What I have learned from my breakup is that after talking with many other girls, it seems every breakup has eerie similarities. Normally one partner turns out on the good side of the break up. No scars, few tears and a new shiny life ahead of them. And for the others? Left in a smaller slightly colder place, pain, less color, sick feeling, worry, confusion. It doesn't seem fair. It's as if their whole life is over.
Why doesn’t he/she care the way I care? Am I not worth crying over? Am I that easy to leave? Why am I the only one fighting for us? Will he/she ever come back to me? Should I wait or move on? What did I do wrong?
But, after looking into a breakup as an outsider my only question is, have you ever thought it wasn’t you who was the problem?
Page 1- Home
Page 2- Top ten things to avoid
Page 3- Another look at suffering
Page 4- 7 stages of heartbreak
Page 5- Tips and questions
Page 6- The rebound
Page 7- Quotes
Page 8- Stories
Page 9- Friends with benefits
Being a member of this silent group throughout America, I understand with empathy and passion the pain of heartbreak. He/she left you by choice and now you’re looking in the mirror wondering "what’s wrong with me?"
People tell you to get over it and move on with your life. However the fear, anxiety and depression may be holding you back, paralyzing you from feeling capable to do anything but feel the severe pain.
I can’t say that I got over my first love quickly, because I did not. It took me 9 months to finally realize who I am without him, and how to know I am okay or even better off without worrying about my ex. There is no time limit on getting over someone. Some people are capable of getting over their ex in weeks, some months and for a few others, years.
First off, the fear of the word ‘ex’ may be paralyzing you, causing you to have the throw-up feeling in your stomach. Things are changing, and that is the last thing you want to think about. Especially when now, you are a human version of a record player constantly replaying the album of your love affair. However, everything will be okay. Calm Down. Take a breath. Put his/her picture down and relax.
I know. It hurts. The pain in your chest always there, and you are maybe having trouble sleeping or the inability to control when you cry. It feels like nothing will ever be okay again and all you want is that one person. Who you feel like now, you cannot have.
Heartbreak hurts. You are on an emotional roller coaster ride. One day life is good, the next you are feeling just as bad as day one...
This is normal and you are NOT alone.
Millions of people in the world are feeling the same pain you are. The same ache in their stomach and the feeling, confusion, worry, sadness, anger and so on.
When I had my first heartbreak I began looking online for advice. I searched for websites with information, one on one chat advice, psychics, horoscopes, in desperate need to find someone who felt the way I did.
"Does anybody else in here, feel the way I do?"
-Pink Floyd, Vera
After talking to people and reading every semi-decent website, I came to the conclusion that I didn’t believe or I didn’t WANT to believe what was happening. The idea that the boy I was so desperatly in love with had moved on, and left me to fend for myself. Someone saying, ‘you both have changed and now it’s time to move on.’ was far too much for me. I could not handle it and I was certain that no other boy or girl in the universe felt this pain. To me, I was just the unlucky one, chosen in all of history to be upset and depressed over an ex boyfriend. Well here is the honest to goodness truth...I wasn’t, and neither are you. No matter how much it feels like it, I guarantee you pass at least six people throughout the day with that one special person on their mind, wishing similar things you did. Longing for that someone to come back into their lives, as if that would make everything perfect again.
Although, I did not take this from a website. The websites gave me answers, but never comfort or understanding. We all know the internet is incapable of giving hugs or talking to you about your feelings. But, humans create the internet and that is why I created this site, so if you are feeling more or less of what I felt, you can know there are survivors. You can read the truth from a girl who got over her ex less than two months ago and has never been so happy. You can understand the pain is normal, and even though it seems crazy, it will go away. You will be alright.
What I have learned from my breakup is that after talking with many other girls, it seems every breakup has eerie similarities. Normally one partner turns out on the good side of the break up. No scars, few tears and a new shiny life ahead of them. And for the others? Left in a smaller slightly colder place, pain, less color, sick feeling, worry, confusion. It doesn't seem fair. It's as if their whole life is over.
Why doesn’t he/she care the way I care? Am I not worth crying over? Am I that easy to leave? Why am I the only one fighting for us? Will he/she ever come back to me? Should I wait or move on? What did I do wrong?
But, after looking into a breakup as an outsider my only question is, have you ever thought it wasn’t you who was the problem?
Page 1- Home
Page 2- Top ten things to avoid
Page 3- Another look at suffering
Page 4- 7 stages of heartbreak
Page 5- Tips and questions
Page 6- The rebound
Page 7- Quotes
Page 8- Stories
Page 9- Friends with benefits